Change Your State in the Blink of an Eye with NLP

What is Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and how can it help me?  That was the focus of my conversation with Jacquie Nagy, NLP Trainer and Coach, on this week’s Your Life, Unlimited radio show on CJOB. When this lady talks about changing your state, she doesn’t mean going from North Dakota to Florida (although that would be nice). She means totally transforming the state of being you are in – going from frightened to fearless, from stressed to calm or from confusion to clarity. Sometimes she is able to assist people in making these shifts in minutes – I had to know more!

You can listen to our the entire conversation here as a podcast: Your Life, Unlimited on CJOB with Stephanie Staples and Jacquie Nagy

Enjoy Jacquie’s guest post below and learn the four strategies to stay in a state of flow, below.

For many people the Holiday Season is a blast! Fun, Fun, Fun!!

And for many the Holidays are stressful. Trying to get everything ‘right’ and socializing from a place of duty versus desire is NOT fun!

To complicate things, many baby boomers are burdened with caring for their aging parents as well as their own families.  It’s easy to see how overwhelm can quickly take root.

If this scenario sounds familiar – you are not alone.

In the article You and Your Aging ParentsBecoming a caregiver to parents involves major changes for all concerned – physically, emotionally, socially and financially.  Learning to cope with the changes in a healthy way is important to ensure you and your aging parents can live in a mutually loving and giving relationship.”

A big change happened in my family recently. My 82 year old Father was a strong and independent man all his life.  In only months his health declined, he needs daily assistance and has moved into a senior citizen residence. My Dad’s life is very different– as is mine.

As his power of attorney I am responsible to manage his personal and financial affairs. Fortunately, I know how to manage my ‘state’ and can flow through the stress.

What also helps is being authentic, confident and knowing my intention is… I want my Dad to be cared for, secure and content.

What about you? Are you caring for a family member? Or under pressure with increasingly complex and demanding workloads?  Whether its family dynamics or a demanding career unless you can learn to manage your bodymind state, your health and wellbeing is at risk.

To create a flow state here are tips from: “Your BodyMind On Stress: Concrete Strategies to Managing Chaos in Your Life and Business”

Four SIMPLE and EASY Steps:

  1. Notice when a ‘state’ of stress is coming on. Early physical signs of stress are heart racing, temperature change, sweating, jittery nerves. Notice subtle internal sensations. These sensations are not always in your gut.  So pay attention!
  2. At the first sign of feeling stressed apply a physiological shift. One of the easiest shifts to remember is to breathe. Create your own rhythmic breathing pattern. The first breath works like an anchor to activate a different ‘state’.
  3. Shake the stress off! – Insert a separator state. Think of your day as chunks of many different bodymind states partitioned by a neutral separator state.   To create a separator state, shift your spine, shake your body, jump, take a few steps, walk or even run!
  4. Activate a new state –and- remember your intention. Think what state do you want? Obviously NOT stressed.  Adopt the physical qualities of the state you want by changing your spine, facial expression, and any other physical qualities. Now recall your intention. Say to yourself “I want….” Re-enter the context bringing in your new state and a clear intention.

With attention on your intention and an ability to change state quickly you can shift into…FLOW.

Again, you can listen to the entire show here: Your Life, Unlimited on CJOB with Stephanie Staples and Jacquie Nagy

For more information on NLP in Winnipeg, come out to the NLP Cafe and casual place to learn, connect and dip your toes in the water of NLP.  Visit:

Best, Steph  🙂


Stephanie Staples, CSP* is the author of When Enlightening Strikes – Creating a Mindset for Uncommon Success and an internationally acclaimed motivational speaker. She empowers audiences & clients across North America to bring their ‘A’ game to work and to life. Stephanie has a special interest in working with and empowering nurses and healthcare providers. She happily calls Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada home.  You can get loads of complimentary resources to help with issues such as work/life balance, wellness, stress management and happiness in general, as well as find out more information about her coaching and speaking services at * Certified Speaking Professional (CSP), conferred by the National Speakers Association is the speaking profession’s international measure of professional platform proficiency. Less than 10 percent of speakers have earned this credential and are recognized as some of the best in their fields. Stephanie was one of only five professional speakers in  Canada (and the only woman) to attain this designation in 2013. – See more at:






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