Why aren’t you more like me?

Talking with author Ken Keis, is like getting a firehose of personal growth information! This guy is fired up and passionate about helping people use assessment tools to discover and perhaps more importantly use their potential. His book entitled, Why aren’t you more like me? Discover the Secrets to Understanding Yourself and Others is chalk full of information and we talked on a snippet of it in our Your Life, Unlimited radio show on CJOB.

You can listen to the entire show here: Stephanie Staples and Ken Keis on Your Life, Unlimited CJOB radio

Enjoy Ken’s guest blog post below and pick up his book and/or visit his website:  http://whyarentyoumorelikeme.com


Why Aren’t You More Like Me?

Discover the Secrets to Understanding Yourself and Others™

Here are a few of the many strategies in Why Aren’t You More Like Me? that enable individuals to embrace a development process that fulfils their needs and puts them in a position to contribute to the well-being of others at the highest level.

Know Your Personal Style

To be intentional in your interpersonal relationships, career, leadership, or personal and professional decisions, you must be aware of their Personal Style. Research by Talent Smart suggests only 2% of the population will realize their potential without that knowledge. EVERY person should complete a Personal Style assessment to understand his or her Personal Style.

At CRG, we strongly believe that many popular style assessments/tests lead individuals in the wrong direction and provide incorrect information.

Understand the Difference: Styles, Profiles, Careers

Personal Style or temperament tools should NEVER be used to determine a career path or establish career clusters. We need to stop that practice immediately. Why? Personal Style does not measure gifts, talents, interests, abilities, or IQ. If 50% of the people successful in a career like accounting have a specific profile, what about the other 50% who also are successful, yet represent different profiles? Rigid style-profiling discriminates against people.

Take Assessments that Allow You to Act Independently

People don’t want to take a test. Assessments that require a professional person to debrief or interpret the results create a co-dependent relationship with the participants instead of an interdependent relationship. That’s not to suggest we shouldn’t have professionals help us through a development process but CRG makes sure the learning can stand on its own.

The Extroversion Introversion Continuum: It’s Not What You Think!

In the book, I go in-depth on the research behind our breakthrough definitions of extroversion and introversion and how those terms describe the way we react to our environment.

CRG’s definition of Extroversion or Introversionis a person’s orientation toward the environment.

Extroversion: “Biologically less sensitive to environmental stimuli”

In the CRG model, extroverts see the environment as an opportunity to be influenced. They are programmed to initiate and feel they can tell the environment what to do. They need strong stimuli to gain and hold their attention and motivate them toward action. Weak environmental stimuli won’t hold their attention because extroverts lack the biological sensitivity to appreciate or value a low-stimulus event.

They have little fear and make decisions quickly, with few concerns for making a mistake. They prefer adventure to routine and they like taking risks. They prefer to lead, not follow.

Introversion: “Biologically more sensitive to environmental stimuli”

In our PSI model, introverts see the environment as a place where they must be careful and cautious. They internally let the environment tell them what to do—the opposite behavior to extroverts, who perceive the environment as a big place that moves fast and is unpredictable. Introverts typically take more time to make decisions. They want to know the rules and prefer to follow rather than lead.

Introverts can be very sensitive to environmental stimuli and react more quickly to the subtle elements in their surroundings. They prefer weak stimuli to strong stimuli, which often overwhelm their “sensing levels.” Introverts will choose a tranquil environment over an active one.

Introverts are people with a stronger need and preference to “wait and see” before behaving because they are naturally more cautious of the environment. Due to their high levels of sensitivity, they prefer to react and adapt to—rather than act upon—their environment.

The Power of Knowing Your Behavioral Values

To filter all the choices and options we have in life, we must make values-based decisions, not opportunity-based decisions. Are you aware of your core motivational/behavioral values? When you are, you can screen opportunities—personal and professional—against your values grid.

In the book, I help you determine/confirm your top 5 to 7 behavioral values while you learn about the related needs and fears inherent in those priorities. What if you could make the right decision (almost) every time in your life? That’s what the values process achieves for individuals and teams.

Play to Your Strengths, not Your Weaknesses 

Stop trying to overcome your weaknesses; that approach is highly overrated. Although we should be aware of our weaknesses and their implications in our everyday lives, trying to change who we are at our core is counter-intuitive. Don’t fuss about what you are not! Accentuate the positive! People are designed with specific gifts, talents, and Personal Style. Play to those attributes.

Those are a few of the strategies contained in Why Aren’t You More Like Me? to help you get on the right track for living life On Purpose.


As an added bonus, on the podcast, I have added a few tips for putting procrastination behind you.  But you can listen to that later!  haha  🙂

Again, you can listen to the entire show here:  Stephanie Staples and Ken Keis on Your Life, Unlimited CJOB radio

Enjoy,  Steph  🙂

Stephanie Staples, CSP* is the author of When Enlightening Strikes – Creating a Mindset for Uncommon Success and an internationally acclaimed motivational speaker. She empowers audiences & clients across North America to bring their ‘A’ game to work and to life. Stephanie has a special interest in working with and empowering nurses and healthcare providers. She happily calls Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada home.  You can get loads of complimentary resources to help with issues such as work/life balance, wellness, stress management and happiness in general, as well as find out more information about her coaching and speaking services at http://www.YourLifeUnlimited.ca. * Certified Speaking Professional (CSP), conferred by the National Speakers Association is the speaking profession’s international measure of professional platform proficiency. Less than 10 percent of speakers have earned this credential and are recognized as some of the best in their fields. Stephanie was one of only five professional speakers in  Canada (and the only woman) to attain this designation in 2013.


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