Advice is for Winners!

Your Life, Unlimited –  On this week’s radio show Raul Valdes-Perex, PhD  the author of Advice is For Winners – How to Get Advice for Better Decisions in Life and Work shares with us why and how we should be asking for advice.

A little later in the  show, personal trainer and owner of Sure Fire Fitness, Kate McKenzie shared with us some advice to get off the couch and back into life.

You can listen to the entire show here:  Advice is for Winners! podcast and enjoy their guest bog posts below …

What if You’re Unsure of Your Goals?

Here share some of It’s the responsibility of the advice seeker to prepare for an advisory meeting by answering these questions:

  1. Where am I now?
  2. How did I get here?
  3. Where do I want to go?
  4. How can you (the advisor) help?

Salacuse explains that these are the key items that a wise advisor should extract. However, as advice seekers, we realize that not every knowledgeable and experienced person is an expert advisor in Salacuse’s sense. Advising is a collaborative process, so we should make it easy for the advisor by clearly laying out those items, even if not asked.

A questioner in my audience asked: “What happens if I don’t know my goals? How do I then make use of your book’s methods?”

My answer was that only a slight adjustment is needed. In that case, your problem is that you’re unsure what your goals should be and you need advice in how to formulate them. It’s not an uncommon situation. The adjusted items then become:

  1. Where am I now?  (I’m not sure what my goals should be.)
  2. How did I get here?
  3. Where do I want to go?  (I want to formulate goals that are consistent with my values, circumstances, and constraints.)
  4. How can you (the advisor) help?  (Help me figure out what my goals should be.)

The old saying “If you don’t know your destination, any path will get you there.” is misleading, since we all have starting points, constraints, and values, so not every path will do.


Are You a Grizzly Bear or a Polar Bear?  by Kate McKenzie

This time of year, grizzly bears are getting ready to spend 5-7 months in hibernation while polar bears love to stay active in the cooler temperatures. As the seasons change and
the weather turns icy, many people also

tend to hibernate allowing their activity levels to drop which makes for a long, sluggish winter. Thankfully, there are ways to mimic the active polar bear attitude and avoid turning into a grizzly bear during the upcoming colder months. Here are a few ideas:

1) Get excited about winter activities – Wax your skis, sharpen your skates, get a new stick. Whatever it takes so you are pumped up about the activities you haven’t done in while.

2) Join something new – There are lots of rec leagues in operation during the indoor season and teams are often looking for players. Try indoor soccer, ultimate, hockey, volleyball or even enroll in lessons like power skating, golf, or a winter run clinic.

3) Savour delicious fall foods – Look up some healthy new recipes to perfect this fall and winter. Consider homemade soup, stew, chili, apple crisp and more.

4) Try hot yoga – Try a relaxing Hot Yin or a more intense Hot Detox or Flow at Canada’s largest yoga studio – nothing is better when it’s cool out!page1image13720

5) Treat yourself – Buy a new piece of equipment (skis or skates?) or stock up on winter workout clothing. Better yet, add these items to your holiday wish list and let Santa Claus take care of it!

6) Workout at home – Perfect for those days when you really don’t feel like braving the weather. Don’t have any equipment? All you need is a bit of space! Not sure what to do? Hire a trainer to make a customized program for you.

7) Start now – It’s easier to get going today and maintain your routine through the colder months than it is to start something fresh when it’s minus 40 degrees celsius.

So there you have it. Don’t let your winter be so ‘grizzly’!

You can contact Kate via

The link to the radio podcast is here:Advice is for Winners! podcast.

Enjoy, Steph  🙂


Stephanie Staples, CSP* is the author of When Enlightening Strikes – Creating a Mindset for Uncommon Success and an internationally acclaimed motivational speaker. She empowers audiences & clients across North America to bring their ‘A’ game to work and to life. Stephanie has a special interest in working with and empowering nurses and healthcare providers. She happily calls Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada home.  You can get loads of complimentary resources to help with issues such as work/life balance, wellness, stress management and happiness in general, as well as find out more information about her coaching and speaking services at

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